When I first decided that I wanted to be a speaker on big stages, I spoke in small groups of 25 and that felt easy.
Within a few years, it was groups of 5,000 and that is a completely different experience. I remember being so nervous about walking out on a stage in front of a huge audience and someone came up to me and saw that I was clearly nervous and said to me: "who is a speaker that you admire on stage? think about how they carry themselves and walk out there and nail it." And I did.
I share that story with you as it relates to giving you permission to decide to show up every day as you wish to be received. Throughout my men’s work, I have spoken to thousands of men and these commonalities bubble up to the surface of the research.
Alison Armstrong and Carl Jung and many others have subscribed to a modality and an example of the archetypes of the man. There are pros and cons to each archetype and they all serve us well when we are aware of them.
Picture of a Sioux Warrior, otherwise known as brave. Every culture has its own martial tradition and mythology.
The Four Archetypes of Mature Masculinity
The Magician energy is embodied by both the master and the apprentice.
“Poetry, beauty, romance, love… these are what we stay alive for”, says Mr. Keating (Robin Williams) in the amazing Dead Poets Society (1989). Can't get any more Lover-y than that!
The sovereign King has to rule wisely and benevolently over a man's other archetypes... and his own life.
Which archetype are you operating from?
Every man can connect with their four Archetypes. When you cannot connect with one, what I have experienced is that there is an obstacle that one archetype is putting up to keep the focus on them. Usually, a trauma that happened at a certain stage of life needs to be cleared.
When I behave in a certain way that is out of my routine, I often ask myself “Which archetype am I operating from right now?”
Neal Conlon is an entrepreneur with a focus on growth hacking, leveraging data, and purposely inspiring others to not let the obstacles in a rapidly changing world of tech limit their opportunities. In the last few years, he has pivoted his focus to learning how he can share his years of self-development to empower others to get better, quicker, faster, and to master themselves and the skills to be successful.